Reasons why you should choose Cybr.es as your next instance Show more
Other reasons include
if you live near Philly I'll buy you lunch
it’s always interesting to see how differently people respond to me when bringing up the same points others have (and often have done better than me)
i am (often) received well/better than most
make sure you notice how your privilege impacts your interactions. and use your privilege as much as you can to talk about important things and boost/support folks who need their voices heard
For the love of.... of course I have to make this clear because... white people.
When I say ask me questions, that does not mean asking me to work that you can do yourself.
If you ask me for examples of harassment and general assholery being thrown my way, and I say look at me timeline, that's what I mean.
Me saying I'm open to questions is not an invitation to ask me to do labor for you b/c you're too lazy to do it yourself.
I am not here to make interacting w/ Black folks easier for you
meta, that article Show more
anyway i read that article and minus the "apolitical" stuff (and that mastodon is crumbling at all)
i thought it was p accurate?
esp regarding the racism/treatment of non white folks, and gargron
I'm seeing a lot of "use this password manager!!" but no explanations of how anything works that could be understood by someone who doesn't speak code. Especially the open source stuff.
If you are going to go around telling people they aren't doing security right, you might want to ask why that is and maybe it's because you are speaking what basically sounds like a foreign language.
you Have to be willing to listen.
it took a few times of me bringing it up for it to finally sink in to my boyfriend that i understand why he reacts the way he does, and the only way for him to not get guilt/anger about it is to work on himself and his friends
we’re not just saying shit to make people were sort of afraid of angry lmao we’re speaking about our own experiences, of which almost all folks who share of intersections have also seen/heard/experienced
please Listen more.
Well fuck, that was really good.
hot take, racism, cops Show more
White people wonder why cops are such fascists now and it’s like “guys we didn’t notice until minorities got cell phones that took video.”
The rise of cheap cell phones that recorded video and platforms to host those videos came at about the same time and both were instrumental in revealing the behavior that has always been there.
It’s not new, Becky. You’re not suddenly more woke either. The revolution was finally fucking televised for you is all.
‘Traditional masculinity’ deemed ‘harmful’ by American Psychological Association
– article: https://thehill.com/blogs/blog-briefing-room/news/424829-traditional-masculinity-deemed-harmful-by-american
'...The American Psychological Association (APA) officially labeled “traditional masculinity” as “harmful” in a new report.
The label is in the report titled “Guidelines for the Psychological Practice with Boys and Men,” a first of its kind for the association, which was featured in the January issue of “Monitor on Psychology” magazine.
“Traditional masculinity ideology has been shown to limit males’ psychological development, constrain their behavior, result in gender role strain and gender role conflict and negatively influence mental health and physical health,” according to an excerpt in the 36-page report...'
the .pdf report: https://www.apa.org/about/policy/boys-men-practice-guidelines.pdf
MeToo Show more
I almost added "personal anecdote" to the cw, which it is, but I think that there's no way it doesn't reflect how society is.
Most arguments for blatant sexism is "biology". Funny thing is, the bounds are so very crossed that for most people it doesn't really apply.
I know a lot of women who are smarter than me. I know a lot of women who are stronger than me. I know women who have persisted through some tough shit.
Don't let "on average" cover up the actual people. Women deserve better.
re: Ro vs. MeToo Show more
As men, we gotta be real about what's happening.
If you're defining your masculinity by how much you can terrorize women with no consequence, you're a fucked up person and you should be aired out.
Me Too doesn't require anything extraordinary of men. Just don't be a creeptastic asshole. Keep your hands to your fucking self. This is not hard to do.
As men, we really need to examine our base identities if we feel Me Too is a bad thing.
Because it isn't. It's progress.